TRex has taken to calling people names. He loves the attention. And no matter how often we tell the Dancing Queen to ignore him and explain to TRex that it is not nice to call names and show him how to get positive attention, he still does it. His favorite a couple of weeks ago was calling everyone "baby". That drives the Dancing Queen crazy. She is most decidedly NOT a baby. We were working on this with both kids, trying to stamp out the attention and stamp out the urge to get attention by angering your sibling. It was a slow process, but we thought it was working. Then, the Mad Scientist picked TRex up from school and witnessed him call his classmate "baby". Said classmate also decidedly in NOT a baby and looked as if he was going to clobber TRex. The Mad Scientist then forbade TRex from calling anyone baby. Immediately, "baby" became a bad word to TRex.
So, every day last week, when I would pick TRex up from school, he would tell me all of the people who used the bad word "baby" during the day. Later in the week, he also informed me that a classmate was using the bad word "poopy". When I questioned why he thought the words "baby" and "poopy" were bad, I was informed because you can't use them. I quickly realized the horrible path we were headed down. Soon, every word would be "bad". I had to explain that it is the intent behind the word that made it bad and not the words itself. (Thank goodness, we were working on "baby" and "poopy" and not F*%K or something else!) The lesson stuck for about an evening and now he is back to calling people names. Ugh!
I continue to explain it is not nice to call people names. This week, everything is "poopy". I ask TRex how he feels when he is called a name and try to get him to empathize. I explain it is not good manners to call people names. I try to show him how to get positive attention and when he wants positive attention, I am very generous in my compliments. I always laugh at the knock knock jokes. So far, the name calling is sticking.
Anybody have any useful advice?
As an aside, sorry for the overuse of quotation marks!